fix(app): Fix accidental polling when a query is initially disabled (#17853)

## Overview

While testing EXEC-1342, we noticed a bug in our notifications machinery
that would cause the app to poll even when MQTT was available and it
shouldn't have to.

## Details

Specifically, the bug would happen for queries that started off with
`options` of `{enabled: false}` and became `{enabled: true}` later on.
[Here is the motivating
example](https://github.com/Opentrons/opentrons/blob/a3b78c28c0f9b51edbe68dc60908b4e3adc6cf2e/app/src/organisms/LabwarePositionCheck/LPCFlows/hooks/useLPCLabwareInfo/index.ts#L68-L77).

The `useNotifyDataReady` hook had a piece of state, `isNotifyEnabled`,
that would accidentally permanently latch to `false` whenever the hook
saw `{enabled: false}`.

## Test Plan and Hands on Testing

Tested as part of #17832 by monitoring the network logs.

## Risk assessment

Medium. This is common code for a lot of stuff, and it's hard to test.

Author: SyntaxColoring

app/src/resources/useNotifyDataReady.ts

@@ -58,7 +58,10 @@ export function useNotifyDataReady<TData, TError = Error>({
   const forcePollingFF = useFeatureFlag('forceHttpPolling')
   const seenHostname = useRef<string | null>(null)
   const [refetch, setRefetch] = useState<HTTPRefetchFrequency>(null)
-  const [isNotifyEnabled, setIsNotifyEnabled] = useState(true)
+  const [
+    hasEncounteredNotificationsError,
+    setHasEncounteredNotificationsError,
+  ] = useState(false)
 
   const { enabled, staleTime, forceHttpPolling } = options
 
@@ -80,8 +83,6 @@ export function useNotifyDataReady<TData, TError = Error>({
       })
       dispatch(notifySubscribeAction(hostname, topic))
       seenHostname.current = hostname
-    } else {
-      setIsNotifyEnabled(false)
     }
 
     return () => {
@@ -98,7 +99,7 @@ export function useNotifyDataReady<TData, TError = Error>({
 
   const onDataEvent = useCallback((data: NotifyResponseData): void => {
     if (data === 'ECONNFAILED' || data === 'ECONNREFUSED') {
-      setIsNotifyEnabled(false)
+      setHasEncounteredNotificationsError(true)
       if (data === 'ECONNREFUSED') {
         doTrackEvent({
           name: ANALYTICS_NOTIFICATION_PORT_BLOCK_ERROR,
@@ -120,6 +121,8 @@ export function useNotifyDataReady<TData, TError = Error>({
     [refetch, options.onSettled]
   )
 
+  const isNotifyEnabled =
+    shouldUseNotifications && !hasEncounteredNotificationsError
   const queryOptionsNotify = {
     ...options,
     onSettled: isNotifyEnabled ? notifyOnSettled : options.onSettled,