GH-39265: [Java] Make it run well with the netty newest version 4.1.104 (#39266)

### Describe the enhancement requested

When I used `netty arrow memory 14.0.1` and `netty 4.1.104.Final` in Spark, the following error occurred,
After pr: netty/netty#13613, `PoolArena` no longer extends `SizeClasses`, but instead uses it as one of its fields, as follows:
<img width="1051" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/6112757b-b2b7-42aa-b4c1-6ab473b91a09">
in order to ensure that `netty arrow memory 14.0.1` works well with `netty 4.1.104.Final` version, I suggest making similar modifications here.
1.Compilation errors are as follows:
https://github.com/panbingkun/spark/actions/runs/7237466030/job/19717162391
<img width="1005" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/98edb6a1-f0e6-4d4e-b568-fbdbffe612f0">

2.Some bugs have been fixed in `netty 4.1.104.Final` as follows:
<img width="862" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/12354a1e-cddd-4ab8-b168-e92712d84cea">
<img width="861" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/bd7d27e1-3953-451c-8c9b-24ecb0d61efd">

4.1.104.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/12/15/4-1-104-Final.html
4.1.103.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/12/13/4-1-103-Final.html
4.1.101.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/11/09/4-1-101-Final.html

### Component(s)

Java
* Closes: #39265

Authored-by: panbingkun <[email protected]>
Signed-off-by: David Li <[email protected]>

Author: panbingkun

java/memory/memory-netty/src/main/java/io/netty/buffer/PooledByteBufAllocatorL.java

@@ -71,7 +71,7 @@ public UnsafeDirectLittleEndian allocate(long size) {
   }
 
   public int getChunkSize() {
-    return allocator.chunkSize;
+    return allocator.chunkSize();
   }
 
   public long getHugeBufferSize() {
@@ -137,7 +137,6 @@ private class InnerAllocator extends PooledByteBufAllocator {
 
     private final PoolArena<ByteBuffer>[] directArenas;
     private final MemoryStatusThread statusThread;
-    private final int chunkSize;
 
     public InnerAllocator() {
       super(true);
@@ -150,8 +149,6 @@ public InnerAllocator() {
         throw new RuntimeException("Failure while initializing allocator.  Unable to retrieve direct arenas field.", e);
       }
 
-      this.chunkSize = directArenas[0].chunkSize;
-
       if (memoryLogger.isTraceEnabled()) {
         statusThread = new MemoryStatusThread(this);
         statusThread.start();
@@ -166,7 +163,7 @@ private UnsafeDirectLittleEndian newDirectBufferL(int initialCapacity, int maxCa
 
       if (directArena != null) {
 
-        if (initialCapacity > directArena.chunkSize) {
+        if (initialCapacity > chunkSize()) {
           // This is beyond chunk size so we'll allocate separately.
           ByteBuf buf = UnpooledByteBufAllocator.DEFAULT.directBuffer(initialCapacity, maxCapacity);
 

java/pom.xml

@@ -33,7 +33,7 @@
     <dep.junit.jupiter.version>5.10.1</dep.junit.jupiter.version>
     <dep.slf4j.version>2.0.9</dep.slf4j.version>
     <dep.guava-bom.version>32.1.3-jre</dep.guava-bom.version>
-    <dep.netty-bom.version>4.1.100.Final</dep.netty-bom.version>
+    <dep.netty-bom.version>4.1.104.Final</dep.netty-bom.version>
     <dep.grpc-bom.version>1.60.0</dep.grpc-bom.version>
     <dep.protobuf-bom.version>3.23.1</dep.protobuf-bom.version>
     <dep.jackson-bom.version>2.16.0</dep.jackson-bom.version>