Race condition in `SpecCluster.close` when closing while upscaling

[fjetter]

There is a race condition in SpecCluster.close that can lock potentially indefinitely if a cluster is closing while instances are spawned at the same time. It is not clear, yet, if this deadlock resolves itself given enough time.

This has been diagnosed as a root cause for some of the flaky tests, see #4859 (comment)

As a user I would expect an ongoing scale up attempt to be canceled during cluster closing and the closing to take care of cleaning up all already created instances.