Allow choosing Large variants of string, binary, list types to avoid overflow panics

[chiragjn]

Describe the bug

The issue started from delta-io/delta-rs#3790 where we are trying to z-order over a large subset of data. While sorting and merging we run into an overflow panic because few of the string columns don't end up fitting in a string array and would need a large string array

User ion-elgreco made an attempt here #300 which we ended up using in our fork to solve this issue specifically for z-order truefoundry/delta-rs@42c892a

We saw #1294 that made a change to allow large types on write paths, it would be good to have a choice on read paths too which would help during z-order, aggregations during querying, and other cases

To Reproduce

We have re-production script for z-order panic here delta-io/delta-rs#3790 (comment)

Expected behavior

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Additional context

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