I've tried everything to make my 5XXX work but nothing seems to do it

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Followed what I think are 10 different guides, telling me to do different things, tried stability matrix, forge, reforge, A1111, nothing seems to work.
"Download X version of Xformers, no wait maybe Y is better oh no wait maybe it was Z"
^Same with pytorch

I get a version to run. FINALLY I say to myse-
RuntimeError: CUDA error: no kernel image is available for execution on the device CUDA kernel errors might be asynchronously reported at some other API call, so the stacktrace below might be incorrect. For debugging consider passing CUDA_LAUNCH_BLOCKING=1. Compile with TORCH_USE_CUDA_DSA to enable device-side assertions.

I'm about to lie down and cry, idk what to do anymore