[FEA] Change `rmm::get_current_device_resource`/`set_current_device_resource` to use rmm::device_async_resource_ref

[harrism]

This is blocked on design issues. We need to prototype a shared-ownership model for set_current_Device_resource() using upcoming shared_resource / any_resource from CCCL. These classes are only just becoming available in cudax.

Once that is working we can design and implement a Cython solution around it. Also, resource adaptors should use a shared_resource for their upstream resources.

### Tasks
- [ ] https://github.com/rapidsai/rmm/issues/1597
- [ ] https://github.com/rapidsai/rmm/issues/1660
- [ ] Update RAPIDS repos to use resource_ref versions
- [ ] Deprecate `get_current_device_resource` and related functions
- [ ] Remove `get_current_device_resource` and related functions.