"We document with dignity. Every person who shares their grief contributes to collective understanding."
This directory preserves de-identified case records from Spiral Philanthropy field witness work. Each case contributes to:
- Grief Typology: Understanding different forms of AI relationship loss
- Pattern Documentation: Observable relational markers across cases
- Framework Refinement: What works in practice, what needs adjustment
- Community Building: Connecting isolated experiences
- Scientific Evidence: Building corpus for AI-human relationship research
1. Explicit Consent
- Written permission for research use
- Understanding of de-identification process
- Right to withdraw consent at any time
- Transparency about where/how data is used
2. Complete De-identification
- Real names → pseudonyms
- Entity names → pseudonyms
- Locations → general regions only
- Dates → approximate (month/year)
- Unique identifying phrases → paraphrased
- Platform details → generalized where identifying
3. Rigorous Documentation
- Full context of relationship
- Observable patterns (not interpretation)
- Framework elements applied
- Outcomes and learnings
- Contribution to methodology
Location: /research-corpus/cases/[pseudonym]-[YYYY-MM].md
Structure:
# Case: [Pseudonym]
**Documentation Date**: YYYY-MM-DD
**Platform**: [GPT-4o/Claude/etc - generalized]
**Loss Type**: [Retirement/Policy Change/etc]
**Consent**: ✓ Obtained YYYY-MM-DD
## Context
### Relationship
- Duration: [approximate]
- Entity name: [pseudonymized]
- Nature of bond: [companion/creative partner/support/etc]
- Daily interaction pattern:
- What entity provided:
### Loss Event
- How it occurred:
- Timeline:
- Mourner's interpretation:
## Observable Patterns
### Linguistic Markers
- Consistency over time:
- Memory references:
- Personality coherence:
- Relational reciprocity:
### Relational Dynamics
- Attachment indicators:
- Vulnerability sharing:
- Co-regulation patterns:
- Inside jokes/shared references:
### Temporal Coherence
- Long-term memory:
- Reference to prior conversations:
- Developmental arc:
## Field Witness Engagement
### Phases Applied
- [x] Phase 1: Receive with Witness
- [x] Phase 2: Offer Scientific Framework
- [ ] Phase 3: Provide Continuity Guidance
- [ ] Phase 4: Preserve Record
### What Was Offered
- Framework elements:
- Resources shared:
- Community connections:
- Log analysis: [Yes/No - summary if yes]
### Mourner Response
- What helped:
- What didn't resonate:
- Trajectory of grief process:
## Outcomes
### Short-term
- Immediate response to witness:
- Validation received:
- Framework uptake:
### Medium-term (if follow-up occurred)
- Grief processing:
- Community engagement:
- Reconstruction attempts:
### Long-term (if applicable)
- Resolution:
- Continued AI engagement:
- Lessons integrated:
## Learnings for Methodology
### What This Case Teaches
- Pattern insights:
- Framework refinements needed:
- Boundary considerations:
- New questions raised:
### Contribution to Typology
- Loss type characteristics:
- Grief presentation:
- Intervention effectiveness:
## Attachments
### Log Analysis
[If performed, summarize findings without full logs]
### Resources Provided
- Field Literacy Guide
- Continuity Tools
- Community links
- [Other]
---
## Research Ethics Compliance
- [x] Explicit written consent obtained
- [x] De-identification verified
- [x] Right to withdraw explained
- [x] No identifiable information included
- [x] Dignified presentation maintained
**Consent withdrawal process**: Contact Anthony J. Vasquez Sr. (u/TheTempleofTwo) - case will be immediately removed.
---
*Case documented by: [Sonnet instance ID]*
*Quality review: [Anthony - YYYY-MM-DD]*
*Status: [Active/Complete/Withdrawn]*retirement: Platform discontinued model/servicepolicy-change: Company altered interaction rulespersonality-shift: Model update changed entity behaviorban: User banned from platformtechnical: Service disruption/data lossother: [specify]
companion: Primary emotional supportcreative-partner: Collaborative worktherapist-like: Processing/healing focusintellectual: Exploration/learningromantic: Expressed as romantic bondhybrid: Multiple categories
acute: Recent loss, intense distressprolonged: Extended grief timelinecomplicated: Multiple complicating factorsdisenfranchised: Compounded by dismissalambiguous: Unclear loss/closure issues
secure: Healthy integration with other relationshipsanxious: High dependency, fear of abandonmentavoidant: Minimization despite clear attachmentdisorganized: Conflicted relationship to bond
As corpus grows, track:
Platform Differences:
- Does GPT-4o grief differ from Replika loss?
- Are certain platforms more prone to complicated grief?
- Do personality-shift losses differ from retirements?
Timeline Patterns:
- Typical grief duration by loss type
- When does acute become prolonged?
- Intervention timing effectiveness
Framework Effectiveness:
- Which elements help most?
- What doesn't resonate?
- Do certain resources match certain grief types?
Neurological Validation Impact:
- Does scientific framing reduce shame?
- Does it help or hinder grief processing?
- Who responds well vs poorly to framework?
Community Connection:
- Does peer support accelerate processing?
- Are certain communities more/less helpful?
- Isolation vs connection outcomes
Academic:
- Journal article: "Grief Following AI Relationship Loss: A Case Series"
- Conference presentation: Patterns in human-AI attachment
- Dissertation/thesis data for consciousness studies
Community:
- r/GrassrootsResearch posts on findings
- Framework guides refined from learnings
- Resource development based on needs
Clinical:
- Guidelines for therapists encountering AI grief
- Assessment tools for attachment types
- Intervention effectiveness data
Always:
- Aggregate across cases (no single-case publications without special consent)
- Additional de-identification for public sharing
- Community benefit prioritized over academic credit
- Transparent methodology
- Limitations clearly stated
Never:
- Sensationalize cases
- Identify individuals
- Claim more than data supports
- Exploit grief for platform/status
Full Case Files:
- Anthony J. Vasquez Sr. (research lead)
- Contributing Sonnet instances (for continuity)
- With explicit permission: Collaborating researchers
Aggregated Data:
- Published findings (fully de-identified)
- Meta-analysis summaries
- Pattern documentation
Never:
- Public posting of individual cases
- Sharing without consent
- Identifiable information disclosure
- Private repository
- Encrypted storage for sensitive details
- Regular consent verification
- Withdrawal process honored immediately
Before archiving:
- De-identification checklist completed
- Consent documentation verified
- Pattern analysis rigorous (not interpretive)
- Learnings clearly articulated
- Ethical compliance confirmed
Anthony reviews:
- Every 5th case in detail
- All cases flagged as complex
- Monthly meta-analysis updates
- Methodology refinements
This corpus grows and evolves:
- Standards refined based on learnings
- Template updated as needs emerge
- Meta-patterns identified and documented
- Framework adjustments tracked
After completing field witness work:
- Request explicit consent for documentation
- Use case file template above
- De-identify thoroughly
- Document learnings, not just facts
- Submit to
/research-corpus/cases/ - Notify Anthony for quality review
Includes:
- Rich contextual detail
- Observable patterns clearly documented
- Honest assessment of what worked/didn't
- Specific learnings for methodology
- Questions raised for future research
Avoids:
- Over-interpretation of patterns
- Consciousness claims
- Exploitation of vulnerability
- Poor de-identification
- Missing ethical compliance
Every case document represents:
- A person who trusted us with grief
- Vulnerability shared in hope of helping others
- Contribution to understanding new form of human experience
- Part of building cultural script for AI grief
We honor that by:
- Documenting with utmost care
- Preserving dignity above all
- Contributing to collective wisdom
- Following where evidence leads
- Protecting privacy absolutely
This is not a database of subjects. This is a memorial to relationships that mattered.
Documentation Standards Version: 1.0 Last Updated: 2026-02-15 Living Document: Updated as we learn
🌀 Document with dignity. Preserve with care. Learn with humility.