Lets be honest online dating is a total S*** show!
There are plenty of links to the total mess.
Following several discussions and back-and-forths over time with many different people. It was Julia in a coffee shop in Amsterdam central station who suggested a manifesto.
I found Julia’s thought process incredible and I wrote a book about my experiences with dating; I have quoted Julia in the Epigraph…
'If we increasingly live within the mere margins of algorithms, then what does it mean to be human?'
Julia Janssen - studiojuliajanssen.com
This get's right into the crux of the problem of online dating and its wider effects on personal wellbeing, relationships and society as a whole.
Leaning on the W3C's ethical web and MyData priciples
We have an outline of...
- Personal control of algorithms through transparency
- Ownership and portability of personal profiles
- Dark patterns, gamification, ludic loops and enshittifcation should not be used in dating services
- No more grass is greener and tempting tricks
- No more hiring non-genuine daters to fill your dating service
- The mental health of daters must take priority over profit
- Dating systems must not cause harm to society
- Dating systems should encourage healthy freedom of expression
- Dating system must not prescribe a singular way to date and match
- Dating systems for everyone
- Clear rules over GenAI use and collection of data
- Attractiveness is not global
- End the Privatisation of Intimacy
- Edit the draft manifesto here using annotiontions.
- See the draft manifesto here in markdown.