[8.17](backport #4784) fix: add grpcnotrace to go build tags

[mergify]

What is the problem this PR solves?

DCE is disabled in fleet-server

How does this PR solve the problem?

resolve blockers to enable DCE (deadcode elimination)

Pass grpcnotrace tag to remove x/net/trace dependency in grpc dependency causing DCE to be disabled

How to test this PR locally

run make local

fleet-server binary size:

35M -> 23M

Design Checklist

• I have ensured my design is stateless and will work when multiple fleet-server instances are behind a load balancer.
• I have or intend to scale test my changes, ensuring it will work reliably with 100K+ agents connected.
• I have included fail safe mechanisms to limit the load on fleet-server: rate limiting, circuit breakers, caching, load shedding, etc.

Checklist

• I have commented my code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas
• I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
• I have made corresponding change to the default configuration files
• I have added tests that prove my fix is effective or that my feature works
• I have added an entry in ./changelog/fragments using the changelog tool

Related issues

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #4784 done by [Mergify](https://mergify.com).

[mergify]

Cherry-pick of 6c35557 has failed:

On branch mergify/bp/8.17/pr-4784
Your branch is up to date with 'origin/8.17'.

You are currently cherry-picking commit 6c35557.
  (fix conflicts and run "git cherry-pick --continue")
  (use "git cherry-pick --skip" to skip this patch)
  (use "git cherry-pick --abort" to cancel the cherry-pick operation)

Changes to be committed:
	new file:   changelog/fragments/1744852233-enable-dce.yaml

Unmerged paths:
  (use "git add <file>..." to mark resolution)
	both modified:   Makefile

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[mergify]

This pull request has not been merged yet. Could you please review and merge it @kruskall? 🙏

[michel-laterman]

The PRs that added gobuildtags were related to FIPS and was not backported to 8.17, @ebeahan do we want to add the other changes needed to backport this?

[mergify]

This pull request has not been merged yet. Could you please review and merge it @kruskall? 🙏

[mergify]

This pull request has not been merged yet. Could you please review and merge it @kruskall? 🙏

[mergify]

This pull request has not been merged yet. Could you please review and merge it @kruskall? 🙏