feat: allow exchanging p2p-host value via rlpx connection

[tsamsiyu]

PR description

This PR adds a new Besu config option p2p-host-share-via-rlpx, which is disabled by default. When enabled, it modifies the RLPx Hello message by including the node’s P2P address in the message body. As a result, the bonding node will use this advertised P2P address as the peer’s identity, instead of relying on the IP address from the TCP socket

Fixed Issue(s)

#8496

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[macfarla]

@matthew1001 any input on this one?

[vitali-zevako]

+1 for this feature, currently we need to restart nodes one by one in case of permissioning is enabled, so it finally resolves correct dns names of allowed nodes