🌱 Avoid unnecessary memory allocation in ssa.Patch after cache hit

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What this PR does / why we need it:
Around 4-5% of our memory allocation in core CAPI at stable state is just updating modified after a cache hit in ssa.Patch. We don't need that as we never read the updatedObject after ssa.Patch

Which issue(s) this PR fixes (optional, in fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...) format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged):
Part of #13305

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/hold

until #13803 is merged