enhance: add delete rows into delete msg header and more metric

[chyezh]

issue: #41544

• add delete rows into delete messsage header
• add more insert/delete metrics
• fix non-broadcast message has broadcast header

[czs007]

/lgtm

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Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 83.33333% with 9 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 80.46%. Comparing base (8a85bc4) to head (afbd17a).
Report is 10 commits behind head on master.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
...nternal/flushcommon/pipeline/flow_graph_dd_node.go	14.28%	6 Missing ⚠️
pkg/streaming/util/message/builder.go	60.00%	1 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️
...interceptors/shard/shards/shard_manager_segment.go	92.85%	0 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️

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Client	79.36% <ø> (∅)
Core	73.02% <ø> (-0.02%)	⬇️
Go	81.92% <83.33%> (∅)

Files with missing lines	Coverage Δ
internal/proxy/task_delete_streaming.go	74.00% <100.00%> (ø)
...mingnode/server/wal/adaptor/old_version_message.go	73.02% <100.00%> (ø)
...server/wal/interceptors/shard/shard_interceptor.go	89.58% <100.00%> (ø)
...rver/wal/interceptors/shard/stats/stats_manager.go	90.63% <100.00%> (ø)
...al/streamingnode/server/wal/metricsutil/segment.go	82.14% <100.00%> (ø)
pkg/metrics/streaming_service_metrics.go	100.00% <100.00%> (ø)
pkg/streaming/util/message/adaptor/ts_msg_newer.go	54.76% <ø> (ø)
pkg/streaming/util/message/marshal_log_object.go	79.79% <100.00%> (ø)
pkg/streaming/util/message/message_impl.go	79.91% <100.00%> (ø)
...interceptors/shard/shards/shard_manager_segment.go	76.74% <92.85%> (ø)
... and 2 more

... and 1191 files with indirect coverage changes

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@chyezh E2e jenkins job failed, comment /run-cpu-e2e can trigger the job again.

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@chyezh E2e jenkins job failed, comment /run-cpu-e2e can trigger the job again.

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@chyezh E2e jenkins job failed, comment /run-cpu-e2e can trigger the job again.

[chyezh]

/run-cpu-e2e

[chyezh]

rerun ut